rock or gem?

I used to think that the person that abused me when I was a child ruined my life, but I was wrong.  Even though that was a horrific experience and I suffered many things throughout my life due to this, I came to realize eventually that it was my own hatred and unforgiveness that was holding me hostage.  No one has the power to ruin your life but you.  I almost ruined my life through my hatred and unforgiveness.    Although you can't help many things in your life, and in your child hood especially, when you get to be an adult,  that is when you can help things.  That is where the rubber meets the road, so to speak.  When, you can choose, through Christ, to become a gem or a rock.  And wether you are a Christian or not,  I can tell you right now that it is impossible to be a gem without Him.  In fact, I would say it is pretty much impossible to forgive something that sears your soul without Him.
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more to come......
from
a
very
selfish, self-serving
person
that
regardless
has
found
grace
through
Christ
PHEW!  what  a relief!